Sofia left her three blessings as a comment on another thread.
Welcome Sofia–thankyou for sharing your three blessings!
very interesting to read
My 3 blessings?
to be loved
and the 3, to belive that I can fly…
1. Birthday Dinner — we had a birthday dinner for my brother, Brian, today.
This happened because it was my brother’s birthday and because my sister
coordinated things so we’d all be able to get together in the evening. It
went well because we all set time aside to celebrate Brian’s birthday,
because my sister is an amazing cook, because my brother-in-law-to-be is an
excellent barbequer of meats and because we were kind and cheerful
2. I caught up with my cousin (whom I haven’t seen in years!) via facebook
today. This happened because I added him as a facebook friend, and went
well because he was funny and charming as always, and because we showed we
were interested in each other’s lives.
3. Ring Around the Rosy — I got to spend time with my beautiful niece
today, which happened because of the birthday celebration and went well
because she is a happy-hearted and bright little girl that loves the people
in her life — including me!
I’m new- I don’t have much to introduce myself with, but I’m 25, married, recently transplanted to Seattle, and that’s about all I really have to say, I guess. Except that if Ben was cheating a little, I’m cheating a lot. Here are my three blessings from yesterday.
1. I got to meet an online friend for the first time yesterday, and that went well because I kept up with her schedule changes, and because I’d set aside time to meet her.
2. I went to a party and stayed talking to friends until the wee hours of the night, which is one of my favorite things in the world to do (the talking, not the partying). This happened because we were invited, rsvped, and rather than leaving when most of the group did, I decided to come back and hang around and because I did my best to listen to the other people rather than just talking about myself.
3. My husband’s glasses were repaired for free yesterday! I don’t know exactly why it happened, other than that I chose to use the Lenscrafters I noticed in the mall the other day, but it was definitely a high point, particularly after expecting at least a $50 charge. Yay Lenscrafters and the nice girl who restrung his glasses for free!
If you wanna post your own daily sets of three blessings here, or even one set, or any number of sets in between, I’d love to have you along for the ride. Just email me at benjamin.ady at gmail.com (you’ll have to change that “at” to an “@”. It’s written that way to avoid spam) and put “please add me to 3 blessings” in the subject line, and I’ll add you as a user. Oh, you’ll also need to sign up for a free wordpress account, if you don’t already have one. It’s easy. Just go to the sign up page at wordpress.com
So Martin Seligman and co, in the process of developing positive psychology, have done a bunch of double blind randomnized controlled trials of a whole bunch of exercises that are supposed to make you feel happier, and found out which ones actually work long term. One of their most effective finds is a little exercise called three blessings. The way it works is this: each and every day, you write down three things that went well that day, and why they went well. This has been shown to increase happiness long term. So I’m starting up this blog to do just that. here goes nothing. I think I shall track my happiness scores occasionally as well, just to see if its working for me =)
Here’s the journal article which details the empirical validation of this exercise.